Going out with friends forms the core of a social life for most singles. A circle of friends means dropping in at bars, cafes and parties where one can meet friends of friends and thus get to know new people. However if you are the introvert sort with hardly any friends or simply too busy to make the effort, it does not mean that you stand to lose out on dating too. Here are a few ways you can meet women even when you don’t have a large social circle to bank on.
The internet has turned out to be a great tool for finding dating partners. For those with a limited social circle, joining a dating website means reaching out to other members at his or her own pace and according to compatible personality types. An online date service acts like a friend would have in real life, by getting you and a potential partner to meet and thus come together on the same page, literally and metaphorically. By perusing online dating profiles, you can start getting to know someone without having anyone else to intervene for you and indeed without even you having to say a word. This is especially great for shy singles since the early stages of a relationship can even be conducted online, thus letting people interact freely and minus their inhibitions which are more likely to surface in an actual dating scene. Once you are comfortable using a dating site, you can go on to explore social networking sites which are also amazing ways to me new people online. Some popular dating sites have their own compatibility testing method which could help to choose the right dating partners based on your personality and preferences.
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Join a hobby class
One of the best ways to meet potential partners is to look for co-enthusiasts in special interest clubs. This would be the right time to take up a hobby that has always interested you but that you never really got down to pursuing. Join a Thai cooking class or one that teaches how to make painted pottery. On the other hand if you are the outdoor type, opt for a gardening course or join a bird-watching society. There are hundreds of interests you can choose from, limited only by the range of classes and societies available in your town or city and the amount of time you can spare. By joining a new class, you will not only be reaching out to potential partners, but best of all you can be more or less sure of having similar interests in case you meet somebody interesting. Small talk can be particularly torturous for shy people which is why relationships built on common purposes can be more successful than those built around avowedly social activities like meeting for a drink or going to a friend’s party. For someone with a restricted social cirlce, that means no longer being tongue-tied at a pal’s barbeque party but lots to discuss on the finer points of glass painting or French wine tasting.
Consider volunteer work
Even if you do not feel the need to have a large social circle, that should not stop you from reaching out to others. Indeed volunteer work means you don’t have to chat up a whole lot of people if you don’t wish to. You could just quietly go on with your job and leave the public relations to others. But be sure to volunteer for work which is suited to your interests or akin to a cause you believe in. It could be as varied as helping out at a homeless shelter to tending the community center garden. If you are spiritually-inclined consider volunteering at your local church or if you love the smell of books, ask if you can help out thrice a week at the community library. Helping others can not only be immensely personally satisfying but a great way to enrich the community too. And if in the process, you come across a like-minded single, what better way to begin a meaningful relationship.
Keep an open mind
If the only dating opportunities that you know about are the pub and the gym, then you have been looking in the wrong places. Rather view normal experiences such as having a cappuccino in your favorite coffee shop or walking your dog in the neighborhood park as opportunities to meet someone interesting. The main thing is to keep your mind open to new experiences since you may never know who might come over to chat about the book that you have been reading at the coffee shop or admire the healthy coat of your Lab in the park. In fact some dating experts even believe that going out alone may have its perks too; for one, women are apt to think highly of your confidence and sense of independence if you are by yourself at a café or a pub. Also any single women there may be more comfortable approaching you if you are alone rather than if you had been surrounded by your beer buddies. You not only look less aggressive reading a book or watching the playoffs on the giant screen but best of all, there is no competition from other guys and you can be assured of a woman’s focus on you alone.
Give extroverts a chance
There is no rulebook says that a shy person cannot have a romantic relationship with someone social and outgoing. However if you are an introvert, you may be wary of people who talk and laugh too much and are always surrounded by people. But this is no reason to consider them as shallow, overly chatty or mindless. On the contrary, many extroverts often maintain steady relationships and have strong loyalties. So give other people around you a chance and don’t turn down a potential date for the mere reason that she seems to enjoy being around people more than you do. In fact you may even be pleasantly surprised to find that two opposing personality types can complement each other wonderfully in a romantic relationship.