Date a Geek - Your Guide to Geek Dating


The prospect of dating a geek for most people does not conjure up highly thrilling date evenings. And yet geeks are often intelligent and undemanding, qualities which are important for a mutually satisfying relationship. So if you are thinking of getting hooked to a person who in turn loves being hooked to computers, here is a brief guide to geek dating.

Learn to speak Geek

Geeks live and breathe computers and technology. So while learning about programing and software would taking things far, it wouldn't hurt to read up on mobile phones, new technologies and video games (a lot of geeks are gamers too!). You don't have to be an expert yourself, but being aware of the basic terms will help you to actively listen to your partner and every now and then respond intelligently. Your interest in their area of work will not only help you to make them comfortable thus getting them to open up but also intrigue them enough to continue wanting to see you.

Look beyond the external

A lot of geeks are out of shape physically since most of their time is spent with the computer. The lack of exercise and a general disinterest in matters of fashion may not make geeks the most stylish of partners. If you are dating a geek, you need to be able to look beyond matters of appearance. Don’t keep comparing your partner to an ex who was a stunner or give too much thought to the green shirt that he has on. In fact over time you may even come to find your geek’s quirky fashion sense unique and lovable.

Be unambiguous

The stereotype of a geek is someone who is not very good initiating social contact with the opposite sex. You may have no problems interacting with a geek brother or a co-worker, but as soon as you meet one at a party, you know that it will be a while before you can get him to her to open up to you. In social situations, geeks tend to be introverted and defensive. So use bold actions and language to initiate conversation with them. Displaying subtle hints of interest may work with others, but a geek may not even be aware that you are reaching out to him/her. In fact they may think that you are not serious or interested unless you give them quite clear signs.


Look at the bright side

What the geeks lack in social skills, they usually make up in professional enterprise. A lot of geeks have scripted remarkable success stories where garage operations have ended up on the Fortune 500 list. Google founders Larry and Sergey are perhaps the best known examples while Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg is still the youngest single billionaire around. So if you are dating a geek and he/she has enough business sense to back up their professional skills, you can look forward to a partner who has ample resources to pamper you as well.

Be prepared for long working hours

All entrepreneurs know that they need to put in a lot of time and effort at least in the beginning of the venture. And if your partner is employed or simply loves being with the computer, it may be quite difficult to tear them away from their work. Add to this unpredictable working hours or working for several days at a stretch, for example in order to finish writing a program. So while dating a geek you should be prepared to be on your own for some periods and not assume that your partner’s unavailability means that he/she loves you any less. Dark circles under the eyes from midnight coding sessions and a beer belly from, well, beer and pizza is something you have to get used to, if you take a shine to the geek!

Know where to find them

If you have been frequenting bowling alleys and neighborhood pubs and wondering why you never come across a geek, it is probably because you are looking in the wrong places. If you want to date a geek, it would be a better idea to look up social networking sites or dating sites like specially meant for them. Most of these guys are permanently connected and here is where you have the best chance of landing up a potential date. Look for profiles on Facebook, Twitter and other social networking websites. Places where there are lots of technology companies usually have these guys in huge numbers. If you're far away from such areas, visit your local Starbucks and look for the guy who spends his entire afternoon gulping coffee and working with his iPad.

Give evidence of your intelligence and humor

On the whole, geeks love hanging out with people with whom they can have an intelligent conversation. So while you may not need a Mensa membership to land a date with a geek, try to come off as a person who is well-read, smart and witty. And before you know, your date may be planning what to do the next time you both meet up.

Geeks are secure

The best part about dating a geek is that you need not be constantly wary of treading on insecurities and inflated egos. Most of them are self-sufficient and undemanding by nature and are happy to let you have your own life as well. They thrive on independence and do not need their partners to massage their egos or cater to their complexes all the time. Moreover they are usually low-maintenance partners and do not expect to be overly pampered. The more talented ones can sometimes turn millionaires much before your friends have finished paying for their first cars!

Encourage them to explore other interests

After you have established a comfortable relationship with your geek partner, see if you can get him/her to leave the computer every once in a while. Take your partner for a walk in the park or book yourselves in an adventure sports class for couples. Or explore other sensual delights with your partner like a music concert, an art exhibition or a wine-tasting event. However be prepared for occasional hiccups since such outings may not always go well. One the whole however you will be exposing your partner to a world of different experiences and with you for company, he/she may find it all quite exciting. Better still find a hobby that you both enjoy and can do together. Many geeks are as passionate about their hobbies as their work and having a common interest will give you both some quality time with each other without talking about computers and blogs all the while.

Dating a geek is not as challenging as it appears. While a geek may not fit the conventional image of the romantic or exciting date, they have several qualities which make them prized relationship material. All you need is a little time, effort and some patience in establishing a connection!