Dating an Alpha Male

Originally used to describe animal behavior, the term alpha male is now being used and emulated with increasing frequency in human society too. But what does it entail in terms of a partner and is this what you are looking for in a relationship? If you are, read on to know the pros and cons of and how can you make the best dating an alpha male.

Understand the term

If you have not yet dated or just started dating an alpha male, it would be a good idea to know what you are in for. An alpha male is the dominant member among other males of his species – a fact that was initially observed among primates and animal groups like dog packs. The alpha male takes charge of the pack, defends it against danger and in return he is given priority in food and mate selection. In terms of human relationships, you can spot an alpha male by his leadership qualities, a bit of aggressiveness and immense self-confidence which is often manifest as sexual attractiveness and turns out to be the reason why women fall for him, left and right.

Loves the chase

Now that you know what an alpha male behaves like, you can spot him from a mile away. If you catch the attention of such a guy and want to retain it, act unconcerned in the beginning. An alpha male is excited by the prospect of chase and you will find him jumping into the courtship game with zeal. He will not take no for an answer and not rest till you have agreed to do as he wants – whether to give him your number or go out on a date with him.

Supreme self-confidence

And yet there is nothing needy or desperate about an alpha male - even when he is pursuing a seemingly reluctant mate. He is completely confident in what he wants and what he has to do to get it. This kind of self-assurance comes to him naturally because he knows who is down to the core of his being. He may not be the smartest or even the richest guy you know, but he will amaze you with the strength of his convictions. If he has a choice to make, he rarely moves back and forth weighing and wavering in indecisiveness. Once a decision is made by the alpha male, there is little questioning on whether or not it was the right decision. He simply assumes it is right and moves on to more important matters. All these traits are highly attractive to women who admire confidence and strength in men. What it means in terms of dating is that you can be sure your partner has planned a wonderful evening for you. He has taken care of all the details and even if something goes wrong, he can be depended to fix it.


However if you are dating an alpha male, be prepared to cede some amount of control from your life. Since he believes so strongly in his way of thinking that other ways simply appear irrelevant. So if you are not used to others telling you how to live your life, such a partner may sometimes come off as overbearing and controlling. Also because of his strong beliefs and convictions, he is generally outspoken on such matters and not afraid to let someone knows how he feels; thus if you are the sensitive sort, you may be taken aback by his comments and criticisms.

A leader

It is not that alpha males are always financially successful in life but they usually rise to important leadership positions. This is because taking charge comes naturally to such a person. If there is an emergency or a difficult project where people have to be mobilized in a particular way, you will find an alpha male assume the primary position of responsibility. He has a knack of leading people and convincing them to follow his commands. This could be the result of a forceful nature or the strength of convictions but the end result is that others feel the need to work for his acceptance and do as he says. Interestingly an alpha male in modern human society rarely leads by fear but by a quick adaptability and by his social, interpersonal skills which convinces others that their best bet lie in following this man. Thus if you are in a serious relationship with an alpha male, you will be gratified to have a socially and often professionally successful partner. He will be well-regarded not only in his workplace but also by neighbors and your social circle in general.

A potential for aggression

On the flipside, it is not easy to go against the wishes of such a partner. You may find your own life being shaped by your partner’s beliefs, social and professional compulsions rather than having your own space. In fact being used to having others do his bidding, your partner may not take kindly to your desire to do your own thing. Women in relationships with alpha males are sometimes the victims of physical and emotional abuse as such men tend to have a quick temper and cannot bear to be disobeyed.

Get ready for competition

In the original sense, an alpha male of the animal world has the right to mate with all other females of his group. This is not to imply that an alpha male of the human world is incapable of being faithful. But if you are dating or in a relationship with an alpha male, be prepared for a lot of competition. Women will always be attracted to your partner on account of his innate charisma as well as the aura of leadership and success. Besides he may even be prone to slip-ups now and then, as a throwback to his evolutionary beginnings. Thus if you feel you cannot handle intense competition when it comes to your partner, dating an alpha male may be a difficult proposition. On the other hand, alpha males are known to be fiercely protective about their loved ones. You can count on your man to go to any extent to ensure your safety. Thus once you are able to convince your guy to be in a monogamous relationship with you, there is a lot you can look forward to.