How to Meet and Date an Ivy League Guy

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Men who have graduated from the Ivy League of colleges enjoy a glamorous image in modern dating world. They are supposed to be smart, well-groomed and rich enough to afford many luxuries. Add to this the glow of the academic elite and it is no wonder that these guys make the most coveted of male partners when it comes to dating. So whether you are keen to date a guy from this exclusive group class or simply wish to know how it is like, here are a few tips on dating an Ivy League guy.

Who belongs to the fold?

The Ivy League is an athletic conference comprising eight private institutions of higher education in the Northeastern United States and includes among the most prestigious colleges of law, business, technology and research in the country. Thus you would be dating an Ivy League guy if he has graduated from are Brown University, Columbia University, Cornell University, Dartmouth College, Harvard University, Princeton University, the University of Pennsylvania, and Yale University. Apart from connotations of academic excellence and selectivity in admissions, the Ivy League circle also implies social elitism and cultural exclusivity.

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Where to find them

One of the effective ways of meeting Ivy League guys would be to frequent alumni associations and old students’ groups, comprising of the graduates of the elite colleges. Most of the Ivy League alumni clubs are based on fostering communion with fellow members of the colleges, or even a leveraging of old school ties. But many times the events hosted by them also function as useful ways of establishing personal connections. Even if you are not Ivy-League educated and thus cannot belong to such alumni groups, find out someone belonging to the clubs who will let you tag along to parties and dinners.

Apart from strictly Ivy League alumni associations, there are other societies like Ivy League Plus which have expanded the exclusive circle to admit graduates of nearly two dozen other universities and graduate schools  like the medical school of Washington University in St. Louis, Stanford, Duke, M.I.T. and West Point which have a “natural affiliation” with the Ivies according to the founder Jennifer Wylde Anderson, in addition to top business, law and medical schools. While most view Ivy Plus as a business-networking opportunity, according to a New York Times report about the society1, “the tip-off to its real appeal is that about 75 percent of attendees are single”. Here members can mingle socially since like attracts like and they are more assured of finding dates who share common background in educational and professional status.

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However if gaining entry to exclusive Ivy League alumni associations and similar groups turns out to be too difficult, you can always explore the top places of business like banks, conventions and business conferences where the most successful professionals or entrepreneurs are likely to belong to the Ivy League. While it may be difficult to pick up a date at purely business or professional venues, you can also introduce yourself as an attractive woman and jot down names and phone numbers. In fact many such events also include semi-formal lunches and dinners where there is greater socializing and hence you have a higher chance of meeting an interested single.

Your chances of meeting an Ivy League guy would also rise if you take your search to cities that host the best colleges. According to Forbes, "A high quality of life causes the young and college educated, in their first few years out of school, to flock to these places, as they are the demographic with the most freedom and mobility to move to the places that are the most desirable."2 Thus frequent the campuses, bars, pubs in these university towns;  volunteer for your university's alum events, attend lectures or concerts at your nearest college, or sign up for a course of any sort and in fact the more advanced, the better. And you are quite likely to come across a professor or graduate of the haloed circle.

Special interest clubs

Finding intelligent men to date doesn't have to be a chore. In fact, it can be a whole lot of fun and games too. Smart guys are drawn to hobbies and interests which involve a significant degree of intellectual challenge. Thus explore debating clubs, Mensa societies and chess groups in and around your town and city and if lucky, you could come across an Ivy League graduate who is available. You can also hit your neighborhood bar's trivia night and impress a potential partner with your knowledge of colonial American history. Or start your own board game night and ask your friends to each bring one smart, single man – that way you can expect a guest or two to be an Ivy graduate. Or sign up for Facebook's official Scrabble application, and wait for a suitable guy to show up as a playing partner.

Nurture your personality

Ivy League graduates are easily considered top catch in the dating game.  Thus it is not enough for you to flaunt your looks and figure while seeking the attention such a guy; you must give evidence of an attractive personality as well. So apart from sprucing up your looks, take steps to groom your mind as well. Expand your reading, be aware of the larger world and cultivate an interest or two on which you can converse intelligently. This is not to suggest that you should put on an act or that all Ivy League guys are looking for women with high I.Q but only to point out that for men who have gone through the best of colleges, intellectual compatibility can rank quite high on their list of priorities in a partner.

Many perks

The best part of dating an Ivy League guy is of course that you can expect to be taken out in style. Bankers, lawyers, doctors and businessmen with this background take home some of the fattest paychecks in the economy and you are sure to be lavished with expensive dinners and gifts. Yet another significant part of their attraction lies in the sharp and ambitious personalities. They are smart, confident about what they want from life and know full well how to achieve them – all qualities which go a long way in making them highly coveted as partners.

Hectic working hours

At the same time though, most lucrative professions like law, medicine, banking and politics involve grueling working schedules which impose great demands on a person’s time. As such your Ivy League partner may not be a joy to be around when he is carrying the stress and tension of a 115-hour workweek. So when dating such a guy you must realize that he will be working long hours and may even be swamped on the weekends. At these times you need to exercise patience and understand that your partner’s unavailability has nothing to do with you and is not an indication of his feelings for you.

Reference:

  1. The New York Times - The Dating Game, Ivied and Pedigreed
     
  2. Forbes.com – The Smartest Cities in America