Can a Rich man be a Loyal Partner?


The internet today is flooded with advice on how to meet and date a rich guy. Finding and dating a man who pulls in a seven-figure annual income no longer seems such an impossible dream, given the plethora of where-tos and how-tos of snaring a Mr. Moneybags. But interestingly enough there is little on what to expect after that. Among the foremost questions that confront partners of rich guys is whether he will be a loyal lover. So here are some thoughts which may help you to find an answer to the question.

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The biggest pitfall in the way of commitment from a rich partner may be in the form of temptations he is exposed to which are bound to be greater in number and variety as compared to the average guy with the average income. It is only natural for successful bankers, high-earning lawyers and wealthy businessmen to dine at the most fashionable of restaurants or frequent clubs where the hostesses are chosen on the basis of their looks. The rich boys who are always in the limelight, whether they come from the field of sports or from the world of showbiz, are even more exposed to temptations in the form of attractive women or fascinated admirers looking for a fling. Reports of sexual escapades committed by golfing star Tiger Woods thronged the news channels and tabloids and proved to be a sad commentary on the reality of celebrity marriages. Even a longtime marriage like that of former American Vice President  Al Gore and wife Tipper Gore was seen to succumb to marital infidelity as the former was reported to be having an affair with Laurie David, co-producer of Gore’s award-winning and some would say prophetically-named documentary, An Inconvenient Truth.

Yet another factor which perhaps makes it more difficult for rich men to stay faithful to their partners is their ego which increases in size as their bank balances do. Men who are constantly being feted by employees, colleagues, clients, superiors and generally everyone else around them usually become used to appreciation from all quarters. In such a situation if for some reason, they feel that their partners are not giving the due attention or approval, they know that they can find it elsewhere without making any extra effort. This constant need for appreciation is difficult to fulfill for any partner who has a healthy sense of self-respect and may eventually turn out to be a reason for a rich guy to start looking around.

Just like their outsized egos, successful men often get used to a sense of entitlement. Here again, the example of Tiger Woods comes to mind – witness his apology after news of his successive flings erupted in the media. In the speech, Woods admits the he felt that he was ‘entitled’ - “I felt that I had worked hard my entire life and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me... Thanks to money and fame, I didn’t have to go far to find them”. Rich men often believe that their wealth and popularity entitles them to everything they might fancy, including the right to break as many hearts as they want.

Guys who can afford the best of everything would naturally go looking for the same in their relationships too. In other words, it is a trophy girlfriend they are looking for, whether to show off their colleagues and competitors or to compliment their own sense of worth. The problem with this situation is that if you are looking for a guy who is rich, handsome and smart, he is most likely to have the same expectations from you. Not only will you find yourself under pressure to prove your worth in all aspects but you may just find yourself supplanted by the next super-babe who crosses your rich guy’s path.

Sometimes it’s just a matter of opportunity, no more and no less. Successful professional men like doctors might have to spend hours together at the hospital where there might be a sympathetic nurse more than willing to offer a neck rub. Or a busy lawyer might have to zip around the country in the company of an attractive aide with whom it would be only too natural to share a couple of drinks after a round of hard bargaining with clients. In such situations an after-dinner drink or a late night coffee is only a step away from a nightcap, with maybe neither party intending to commit any indiscretion but things simply turning out that way. On the other hand, a guy who earns a regular salary or runs a modest store has fewer chances of spending nights away from home or being away for days on end.

Eventually however it all boils down to individual personalities and priorities. Even the cute-looking next-door boyfriend may succumb to the charms of an attractive waitress on a regular night out with the boys. Earning an average income can never be a guarantee for loyalty since commitment to a relationship is a matter of the heart which is rarely influenced by the size of one’s bank account. In fact a guy who does not have a home or a job may even be more likely to look out for his own financial stability by feeding off a well-established woman’s sympathy and then moving on to the next source of emotional and material support. Moreover, rich men who have seen it all – the glamour and the temporality of a jet-setting life – are even more likely to be appreciative of a relationship where commitment is the keyword. After dealing with cut-throat competitors and difficult-to-please clients the whole time, every successful professional will want to come home to a wife and family where he knows he can find love and fidelity.

So in the final analysis, it is difficult to put forward a simplistic and direct equation between wealth and infidelity. While it is certainly true that the rich and the beautiful people are more likely to be sought-after by their admirers, whether or not they give in to such temptations is ultimately very much a matter of individual choice.