Commitment and monogamy

In these times, the circle of people affected by a death has expanded from family, friends, co-workers and acquaintances to include former spouses. And yet the precarious relationship between ex spouses also means that often individuals do not know how to mourn the death of a former partner. Here are a few things to keep in mind when your ex-husband dies and you are tossed onto strange and difficult emotions.

At the funeral

The experience of war is not one which can be left behind at the battlefield. No matter which side wins or loses, every soldier brings back a baggage of memories and emotions from the frontlines. So if you have just been informed that your husband is on his way back home from the war, here are a few ways to prepare yourself and the family.

Be prepared

When you vow take your spouse “for richer or poorer”, “in sickness or health” and “till death do us apart” during your wedding ceremony, the words seem little more than an inspiring note to begin your married life with. It is only when an ugly reality like a life-threatening disease breaks in the ordinariness of married life that the vows are actually put to test. So if your spouse had been diagnosed with a terminal illness, here are a few things to keep in mind.

Learn about it as much as you can

The death of a parent can be a devastating experience for anyone. But when it is your spouse who goes through this, it can affect your entire family for days together. So if your spouse has lost a parent recently, here are a few ways you can support him/her and get back your family life on track.

Just be there

Social security benefits constitute one of the most important means of leading a good quality of life after one is no longer capable of working in senior years. However like all government plans, certain confusions about its rules and beneficiaries persist. So if your spouse has been receiving social security benefits and you wish to know if you can continue to receive them after his/her death, here are a few guidelines.

Social security

Raising a child is one of the most committed action anyone can undertake and that too over many years. While bringing up a biological child brings with it some cultural and psychological support, doing so for adopted child can involve an entirely different set of complications. So before you launch yourself and your family in the long and often tortuous paperwork, here are some aspects of adoption you might want to consider.

With social mores and expectations undergoing a sea-change, it is no longer mandatory for women to settle down with a husband and children before they hit thirty. Today’s women have the luxury of focusing on college and her job while in their twenties even as they experiment with relationships in order to find out what she really wants. However should you feel it is time to settle down to a long term relationship, here are a few ways you can go about it.

Every man dreads that time of the month when a usually reasonable girlfriend transforms into a simmering volcano of complaints, likely to burst forth at the slightest of provocations. While much has been debated about the symptoms and seriousness, indeed the very existence of PMS, it is still a highly individual condition. So if you find yourself baffled by certain changes in your girlfriend every month, read on to understand the condition and how to deal with it.

Looking after a child is hard work – not only because of the physically strenuous jobs involved like feeding, changing, bathing and playing but also because this cycle goes on 24/7. You are doing this today, the next day and everyday. And one of the first things to suffer is the quality of the relationship with your partner. But even when you wish to spend more time together as a couple, doubts arise about where and with whom to leave the baby with. It can also be expensive to hire a babysitter.

Love brings with it a whirlwind of emotions – it is makes you want this person, want him/her to want you back; it makes you certain as never before or it befuddles you with conflicting feelings. In all this tumult, one of the questions you dread asking if the relationship has a future for fear that somehow it may spoil things. But then it is only human nature to know what is going to happen next, especially if you believe that this guy/girl is the one for you.

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